I am a big fan of both creating and consuming content. But I donât always get the balance right. There are times when I consume more than I create. Right now, though, Iâm in a period of my life where I want to focus on creating more and consuming less.
When we create, we take ownership of our brand and the experience we share with others. But when we consumeâespecially without balanceâwe can fall into the trap of comparison, envy, and jealousy.
I remember one day seeing a post from someone I deeply admire. Their vision and impact in the world, the way they combine their business power and digital superiority with a big heart for humanity is probably why they are one of the few people I put on a pedestal. So much so that I had reached out multiple times with a brilliant idea, or so I thought.
I never heard back. Instead, I saw that they selected different ideas, not mine.
It felt like salt on an open wound. Because let's face it, when we feel rejected, it stings.
No matter how confident you are, rejection makes you feel like you are not enough. Perhaps with time, the sting is not as painful as at first.
Feel the rejection, then flip it to connection. Connect with your worth, as rejection is only redirection.
Then I started to feel envyâWhy them and not me? Then sadness crept in, and I began doubting myself and letting insecurities creep in. But after a while, I realized that everything in life happens for a reason, even if we can't see it right away.
Life happens for us, not to us.
Perhaps life was nudging me to carve my own path, to continue working on my idea and trust that the right partners will show up when it is time.
Perhaps it was showing me that I am meant to dream bigger, and expect the entire table, not just a seat at it.
For many, this may sound arrogant or cocky, because especially young girls are taught early on to settle in life. That asking for too much isâŚtoo much.
No, it is not, and never let anyone tell you that it is.
However, with great power comes great responsibility. You need to be ready, truly ready for handling bigger things. New levels, new devils!
I try to find the silver lining in everythingâpeople, experiences, and even challenges. That doesn't mean I don't get triggered, compare myself to others, or feel like I'm not enough sometimes. We all wrestle with these insecurities, some more than others.
Life isnât a race or a marathon; itâs a journeyâa journey of embracing and accepting our human experience as it unfolds.
It means allowing ourselves to feel without suppressing emotions, but also not letting those feelings dictate our mindset.
It means focusing on the journey, not the destination, and showing up with integrity every single day.
Because small, intentional steps each day eventually lead to giant leaps.
And thatâs exactly what this weekâs EQ Oasis theme is all about:
How to stop comparing yourself to others, let go of jealousy, and embrace the truth that you are more than enough.
My Journey With Jealousy
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During times when I lived from unresolved trauma, I faced jealousy, especially in romantic relationships. My anxious attachment style, rooted in past abandonment, led me to fear losing loved ones. It is not something I am proud of looking back on in my life, and thatâs OK. In life, we evolve into better people when we become aware of patterns and habits that stem from our wounds and not from who we truly are.
But as I worked on healing and growingâfocusing on self-worth and securityâthe intensity of jealousy faded. The less emotional pain I carried from my past experiences, the safer and more secure I felt in my own body.
When we feel safe and secure in our body, we donât feel the need for jealousy or envy. Because we are focused on what we are creating right here and now. We are focused on our journey, not needing anyone else to complete us or to fill our voids. Instead, we learn to experience relationships as connections that add to our lives.
My experiences taught me that everyone has their moments of insecurity, but how we choose to respond makes the difference. Never feeling jealousy towards others is perhaps utopian and unrealistic. But becoming aware of how we feel is the first step to not letting those emotions of envy or jealousy make us bitter or resentful.
And this is what I will share in this weekâs editions: the strategies and tools I used to help me turn jealousy into purposeful energy to lift me up and focus on my own journey on this planet.
